This post might be a little late, but I don't care. I've been thinking about making this blog for several weeks, so it's in time in my mind. And that's what matters.
It's a brand new year! Can you believe it?? I'm feeling kind of blase about the whole thing this time around. It feels like it's just another day in another week in another month in another year. Yanno?
Anyhoo. I thought I'd compile a list of things I learned in 2013. I went through a lot in the past year. Some of the things on this list I may not have necessarily learned in 2013, but were lessons that were forcefully reiterated. Let's see where this takes us.
1. You get what you give.
If what you put into the world is negative and cancerous, that's what you're going to get back. I learned that I truly believe in karma. I questioned it previously, but now I know that karma exists. If you're going to be a nasty, negative, destructive person to other people, expect the universe to repay you with the same. Not only will you suffer, but those around you will also suffer. Don't say I didn't warn you. ;)
2. True friendships aren't based on how often you see each other.
A friend that loves you for you and completely understands who you are as person will understand why you haven't seen each other for however long. Once you see each other again or even just start talking again, you will pick up where you left off and will feel the same amount of support you felt before. A true friendship is a meeting of the souls and that's something that nothing can break.
3. People are selfish.
Everyone always says that they can always rely on family or their closest friends to be there no matter what. Well, sometimes, that's just not the case. It's ingrained in us to be selfish; if you see that something isn't benefiting you or is causing you harm, you think of yourself first and remove yourself from the situation or do something that makes the situation better for YOU. Keep this in mind as people come and go from your life. Everyone has a breaking point and eventually, they have to take their own well being into consideration before anyone else's. Even the most giving person has this in them. If they don't think of themselves first in some situations, they will slowly deteriorate until there is nothing left. So expect nothing less and you will not be disappointed.
4. Family is forever, but that doesn't mean they don't suck.
This kind of ties in to the last point. People are selfish. Your family is selfish. It's human nature. Your family may be tied to you forever because of a blood relation, but that doesn't make them suck any less. You just need to learn to deal with it or cut them out of your life.
5. You're the only one that can heal yourself.
Nobody else knows what your heart truly holds and nobody else really knows what will make it better for you. You need to come to terms with what's going on in your heart and your mind, understand and deal with those issues and learn to love yourself before you can heal. Nobody can do that work for you. Others may have the ability to apologize for what they have done to wrong you, but the healing begins within. Love yourself and realize that you are worth the healing. You are worth love. You are worth it. Period. There is a reason that you have made it this far. Love yourself.
6. The rearview mirror is only there to warn you about what's to come.
You don't look in the rearview mirror because you miss the view. (Unless it's a really pretty sunset. Because I've done that.) You check your rearview mirror to see what's going on behind you. You check it to try and predict what could have an impact on you. If you see someone speeding up behind you, you get in the slow lane to get out of their way. (Unless you have road rage, which then indicates you should hit your brakes as hard as you can without warning because you're an asshole and want to show the speeder who's boss.) If you're passing someone, you check your rearview mirror to make sure you have passed them enough to safely get in front of them. If you cut in front of them before it's safe, you're going to get into an accident. But you'll be able to predict the accident if you check your rearview mirror. So, when you look in your rearview mirror, don't do it because you miss what you've passed. Do it to predict what will cause you harm in the future. Protect yourself. Protect your future. Don't let the same mistakes happen again.
7. Your hair really is connected to how you feel.
I've had cancer. Twice, actually. I can attest to the fact that women tend to equate hair to how feminine they feel. BUT. I let my hair go since I was pregnant and didn't care. Now my hair is long and annoying. I feel just as unattractive as I did when I had no hair! If you find yourself feeling down and out, go and get your hair done. Get it cut, get it colored, get it highlighted. Whatever! If you want something funky, do it! It's only hair. It will grow back. You can even color over it! Take the risk that you've been thinking of and know that the outcome isn't permanent, so it's ok. Or just put yourself first for once and get your hair cut. You'll thank me for it later, trust me.
8. Dish Networks sucks.
If you live in a region that gets any weather of any kind, don't get Dish. You lose the signal to your tv, which means you can't watch what you want. They don't do anything about it because it's an "act of God." Who knew that Dish was Christian, right?! Had I realized this before my 2 year old freaked out because Yo Gabba Gabba was frozen, I would have stuck with my shitty, overpriced cable provider. I'd rather pay more and have consistent tv than listen to him scream about Foofa being stuck in a compromising position with the Tooth Fairy.
I got nothin else. Did you relate to any of that? I hope so! I hope that some of what I have learned over the past year will help you learn. Or, if you're like me, you'll go through shit over the next year or so and then suddenly think back and remember my blog: "Oh yeah, she SAID this would happen!!" Because I never learn lessons until I've been through the scenarios myself. But that's ok. We're all beautiful and perfect in God's eyes, right?
Pfft. Good luck. And Happy New Year. ;)
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